Life, to me, is a series of events that are pretty much puzzle pieces that you’re handed. It’ll be up to you to piece them all together to form a cohesive portrait.
In my travels, I’ve come across a lot of people who have said that they feel like what they’ve been through is “unfair” or “holds no purpose to who they are”. I beg to disagree. I wholly believe that everything in your life is there to lead you exactly where you’re meant to be. If you’re feeling listless or lost, the moments of your life have led you to exactly that moment: the moment of self-realization.
A city can’t be rebuilt without removing the ruins first. Whenever a person comes to me saying that they feel like they’ve gotten nowhere, I congratulate them. Hear me out. I don’t do that as a flippant or sarcastic response. I wholeheartedly congratulate them because the have realized that they *FEEL* like they haven’t.
This means that they are ready for some much needed self introspection which is pretty much the start of going in a better direction. For example, I met this young lady–we’ll call her Jess–and she came from an affluent family. She was pretty much given the tools that anyone needed in order to make it in this world. However, she often complained that she felt like she wasn’t heading anywhere.
She wasn’t able to hold on to a job long enough and she was fine with it. She said it’s not like she needed the money anyway. She told me that she found comfort in her religion and the belief that eventually she’ll find her place in life. The one place she’s meant to be.
So I asked her “What are you actively doing to get to that place?” and she responded with “I don’t know. I try. I wake up, I find work when I leave my old one. I’m a productive member of society.”
If you’re thinking that Jess is spoiled, you’re right. However, everything she’s going through now is actually part of the journey to get to where she’s meant to be. Yes, all the listlessness, all the lost jobs. Even when it doesn’t quite make sense. Each and every opportunity teaches you something. That something will stay with you even if you don’t quite actively realize it. This is what I told her as well and she couldn’t quite believe what she was hearing.
Fast forward to three years later, Jess is happy as a temp. She realized that she hated being tied to a routine and longed to flit from one experience to another. All the skills she picked up in the many different jobs she held and lost enabled her to be efficient in many other fields.
Upon meeting her again, she thanked me because she said I was right. Every little thing that she went through was ultimately arming her for where she was supposed to be. So if you, my dear reader, feel like you’re in a horrid situation or if you feel inert–if you feel like what you’re going through isn’t helping you for anything down the road, THINK AGAIN.
Everything in your life is there to lead you exactly where you need to be.